I kissed a really cute guy. We made out all night. He was breath stopping gorgeous. I invited him to study with me Monday. He politely declined. He knocked on my door tonight to tell me he is in an open relationship with another girl and he doesn't feel comfortable ending that to pursue what may or may not happen with me. It would be "unhealthy". I told him it would be imprudent to pursue me. And I wasn't lying.
I plan on seductively torturing him into a puddle of romantic mush and then cutting him out. Sort of like when spiders eat their mates after sex. (He hurt my feelings. Rationally, I know revenge never makes things better. So I probably won't go through with my evil plan. But it is a good plan, no?)
I don't understand the concept of open relationships. Isn't it a huge dichotomy? To me "open relationship" means an easy way to have a lot of sex without technically feeling guilty about hooking up with other people. The word "relationship" denotes association and connectivity. Although according to Webster, the word relationship does not mean exclusivity.
What do you think?
I agree. I mean in theory I understand the idea of an open relationship. It's supposed to be something like being able to make sure that you don't miss out on something better that might come along; but truthfully in practice I think it's ridiculous. If you like someone enough to say you're in a relationship at all why would you want to be able to hook up with other people? I think it was good of you to tell him it was imprudent to pursue you, but I think you also should have told him he was an ass for not telling you he was in an open relationship before now. What a jerk.
ReplyDeleteTorture him till he cries for you to be his one and only...
then tell him you're in an open relationship...
with yourself.
Also, know that I am available to beat up stupid men if necessary. I am obviously very big and scary, so this will work to your advantage. :-P
From lots of personal experience with lots of stupid men, revenge will not make it better. Hold your head high and show him that he is missing out...and if he comes back to you don't ever give him another chance. He'll be sorry and you will have handled it well. And I have been in the EXACT same situation he put you in and it sucks. With time it did all heal though. And yes, if he is in an "open" relationship but cannot pursue other people then it is not so open. Truthfully I think people only enter into those because they are afraid that the label "relationship" is what truly makes it a committment.
ReplyDeleteI think he's an asshole. As such, he is not worth your time and energy. You have many other things to occupy your time, such as being fabulous.
ReplyDeleteI think "open relationship" is yet another creation of facebook. Synonym for commitment phobe. Which in the male persuasion usually means immature. I'm proud of you for staying away.
I second Court's offer to beat up stupid men. I'm sure the duo of the two of us could easily overpower him since we are both very big and scary.
Chin up. Love you!
I have also never understood the term "Open Relationship." I think it is just an excuse to use people: you always have someone to hump when the sex market is bleak, and you also always have a perfectly lame excuse to reject someone...and thus avoid attachment all together.
ReplyDeleteI like the revenge idea. Although I also think he's not worth another second of your time and energy.
I love you and miss you.
Open relationships don't make much sense. It's a combination of lack of commitment and laziness. I am glad you are rid of him now because he is obviously not worth your time.
ReplyDeleteI love you Dport and you deserve better.