The opportunity I've been waiting for has come my way. I'm interviewing this week for an Assistant Buyer position at Right Start's corporate office. The catch: I would have to move to Denver. There are two sides to making this decision that are very conflicting for me. The first is, while I like Denver, I do not really want to live there. I don't know ANYONE there, (except for the mostly middle age group of people that would be my coworkers), and it would be SO far from all of my friends and family. And that would be really hard. Also, I LOVE Chicago. I absolutely adore this city and would be heartbroken to leave it behind. But this brings us to the other side of the argument: I'm not too happy here. Never have been. While the city is wonderful it's crazy expensive, I don't like my job and tiny apartment and I spend so much of my time alone. I do have a decent amount of friends here but no really good friends. No best friends. Everyone is kind of wrapped up in their own lives and it sucks not to have anyone here I can really depend on. Like this weekend when the friend I was supposed to hang out with completely ignored me to hang out with her new boyfriend, (not even a "sorry I'm busy" text), this is proof that I'm holding on to things that I shouldn't be.
Of course, I am getting a little ahead of myself as I have not yet been offered the position. I've talked it over with a few people and the general opinion is "you're young, you're not tied down, you want this, do it." The best was my friend who said, "Do you want to move to Denver?" Me: "No." Her: "So don't move to Denver." Me: "But I'm not happy here either." Her: "You're not happy here? So move to Denver!" I think what it will come down to, if offered this position, is money. Relocation and a salary increase are a must. If not offered these things then I might as well stay put a while longer. I really need to make a pro con list....
Anyway, thank you for listening to my ramblings. It's nice to talk things out. Let me know your thoughts!
Love,
Shannon
Big life changes can be so scary. I was scared shitless when I moved to New York alone. Life is about risk, reward, and the real possibility of failure. Don't let the fear of the unknown overwhelm your decision. Whatever you decide, I support you 150%. Call me if you want to talk. Xoxo.
ReplyDeleteI agree completely with Dport. We support you no matter what you choose. Remember to be brave. Either decision requires bravery, and I know that you are a strong and brave woman. No matter what you decide, that will be what is right for you. If you need to talk, feel free to call. Love you.
ReplyDeleteDear Shannon,
ReplyDeleteBest of luck on the interview. I hope it goes/went well!
A couple more thoughts besides those of the wise women who already posted:
1. Listen to your gut. I find that its instincts are rarely ever wrong.
2. Making friends in the adult world is damn hard. I know you know this, and many of us have had that same experience. It takes lots of time, and serious effort to make and build connections with new people. I think it would be a big something to consider in your decision.
3. Would the position advance your career, or at least put you on a better path to where you eventually may want to end up? Would you be happier in this job?
4. When it comes to adventure and taking risks, there really is no better time than the present.
Love you and miss you! I'll be thinking of you. Keep us posted on how things go.